Sounds like you have this mostly under control, save for the name-calling.. that's a big NO NO
DD, every BAD MOVE will undo SEVEN good moves on your part.. ok?
Right now its more IMPORTANT to AVOID the BAD MOVES than making good ones... Keep that in your head and keep it in your mind when you are talking to her 1 for 7... remember that..
I wouldn't invite her... She needs to taste divorce, and this is what divorce is... doing things separately...
The other point, don't argue about your wife's cheating... she KNOWS she's cheating.. It doens't sound like the family therapist you went to did much education at all... which I would argue should come first
Build Trust Educate both spouses on marriage
The resolving conflicts comes LATER ON... Once you two learn HOW
I take it your wife isn't willing to go back for more therapy?
PS : You can set your router to block your wife's laptop ip address and OM's ip address.. almost all routers have built in firewalls of that sort to offer that feature
Contact OMW as soon as you can... dont phone her... sit in your car outside his home until he leaves on friday and then go knock on the door... and yes, take evidence.. lots of phone logs.. that should be enough to get you in the door
Get a contact method from her on teh first meeting that is SECURE from OM... so you can keep her updated and he won't intercept it
