My Husband Just Left Me

[SDFoundGirl]

Packing his stuff will surprise him. He expects you to be weepy and weak. He doesn't expect that you will gather his stuff and convey the message, "You don't want me? Fine, don't let the door hit ya' where the good lord split ya'."

When I started living my own life and stopped paying attention to what my H was doing, H took notice. The pleading and love letters made him recoil and tell the woman he was hot for that I was an "alien." I started going out, meeting people, making sure I wasn't around, coming home upbeat, going into my bedroom to chat with new friends on the phone and laughing, treating him like a roommate rather than my H, and THAT'S when H woke up. I was literally at the point where I was thinking of dating someone I'd met when he said he wanted to reconcile.

DBing is counterintuitive. The thing is, you can't change anyone but yourself. I changed myself and found that I could be happy without H. I preferred him, but I didn't need him. His choices were his; I couldn't change them. But I changed myself, and he found that attractive.

SD