SOTR how about even split 50/50 1 week on 1 week off, with alternating weekends. Try to make it as amicable as possible, she may view you doing this as " It's just to keep me around " or something like that. Stick to your guns for the twins, and realize that this makes you look like a real man.

WAW will come around man, in time everything fades and heals. I think that once the dust settles and she sees you being the best father you can be, and being nice and amicable and showing your moving on with your life and your happy that she could very well come to her senses.

Dont worry about her right now, worry about what is best for them. When you focus on whats important people take notice, and admire those traits.

I know its hard, not a second goes by that WAW isnt some where lurking in my mind, but I know that had we not had our problems I would actually be worse off. I was neglecting myself so bad before, but not now. I am going to rebuild to a better stronger person, and when I finally emerge from the depths she will see. Then ill make a decision if we still have a chance.

You have the power man, dont give it to her.


M 36
W 29
Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months
Daughter 15 months
Bomb 4/22/10
Separated since 4/25/10
OM 6/10/10
Hopeful, but moving on