We're in the same boat more then I knew knightinneed. My WAW definetly needs counseling to deal with her past !!! Im FAR from an expert, but I believe anti depressants are also in order.
Im planning on sticking to my original request for joint custody with myself as primary when we're in court on Thursday. Im pretty sure the judge will keep it that way at least until the end of the school year (three to four more weeks). I also plan on asking for mandatory mediation, which I know the court likes to see instead of them making the decision. Im doing EVERYTHING I can think of to fly the white flag. I am hoping if I keep primary that she will eventually start to come around sometime this summer.
The question then becomes, how much time do I agree to for her?? I want to have her as involved as possible, while minimizing the kids exposure to him. If i give to little, she will continue to resent me. If I give to much, it makes it easier for her to stay where she is. Im thinking MAYBE every other weekend, plus seeing them at my place whenever she wants within reason.
I dont even know how the Courts generally handle what time kids as young as ours should be home at night. Especially during the summer. 9PM ???? 8?????
