peace- I know I didn't think I would still be with my H's MLC after 3+ years and I'm sure you never thought your H would abandon his children. Makes you wonder where we will be in 3 more years as we continue on this journey. Hopefully your XH will figure out his children need him but in the meantime, enjoy the calm. If he does come back into the picture, he probably won't be very pleasent for you to deal with. I know my XH was a nightmare and I did think from time to time that life would be so much easier if he just went away.
I have to say that your XH's current W makes me sick. What a selfish piece of trash she is. Not only did she help destroy your family, she obviously isn't encouraging your XH to have a relationship with his children. I know ultimately it is your XH's choice but I can't help but feel she is responsible as well. I don't know how people like that can get up everyday and look in the mirror knowing they are hurting children.
Originally Posted By: forward
We are with our spouses for a reason. Sure, they are emotionally immature--but what attracted us to them in the first place? How did we relate? These are good questions to consider.
I have often wondered this myself especially since I have picked two men who are extremely different but yet they both abandoned me. I know I'm not perfect and may not have always been the easiest person to live with but I don't think I ever did anything that warranted abandonment or my first H cheating. Why did I pick these men? Marriage takes work. Both of my H's decided to bail rather than do the work. In my opinion, they either have very little character and no honor or their brains are a little twisted letting them justify their bad behavior. What does that say about me that I would pick this kind of man? I think my self-worth was not what it should been therefore I settled for less than I should have. Does anyone else feel that way?
