Husband left again for long weekend. On thursday was packing up CDs and DVDs to take with him. Asked me to sort out which ones were 'mine' and when I picked a few that we had acquired during the marriage, he claimed that those were all his. I guess anything that was 'ours' is now his. <sigh> Not worth the effort to argue, I don't really care what CDs he takes.
Next he asked where I had put the cord for the stereo. My husband was always the technical wiz, he set up our computers, stereo system, television, etc. I haven't done anything with that stuff for 13 years since it was his domain. Suddenly he claims I must have taken the cord or hidden it somewhere. I have no idea what he was talking about, I don't know one cord from another and could only marvel at how completely irrational he sounded.
He left early on friday from the office. When I thanked the staff for helping to fill in to do his work the receptionist said to me ," I think he just needs more time away. He shouldn't even bother coming in on fridays." Its sad to me that they can see him falling apart, and he prides himself on putting on a good face in public. Obviously not working.
When I got home there was another note. This one just said "Have a good weekend, I'll see you monday." No signature or heart this time.
I have to admit that when he is gone I am much less emotionally a wreck. I still think about him all of the time, but at least I'm not continuously in tears. Still I go out and see husbands and wives doing things together, just boring stuff - shopping, walking in the park, etc and wonder why that couldn't be us. He's changed so much from the man I knew, and yet I still love him. Guess I'm feeling sorry for myself this weekend.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
