New relationship, trying 180.

[FindingMyVoice]

Ahhh okay... I'm starting to understand. Let's see if we can't clarify a couple other things though. Perhaps let's not look at the 180s for the moment - it might be confusing the issue.

I found myself saying yes to the 'walking away" part....

And you wanting to walk away because he's withdrawing? Further, with regards to the type of support you're wanting - are you wanting help to prevent you from walking away?

With my new R, sometimes, the only solution seems to be to end it. But then, I find myself resisting that boundary,

So you're wanting to learn how to set new healthy boundaries as to how you want to be treated within the R? To me, what you've said about sounds like an unhealthy wall, not a boundary ie) if I don't like what you're saying or doing I'll end our R, period.

Why don't you pick one action he is taking, that you'd like to create a boundary for? Just try explaining it in one or two sentences; I'm going to go over to my thread right now, and pull some info off it in which Coach explains boundaries. I think it might be very helpful for you.