Haven't gotten to that part yet - will address it this week as we form an action plan.

We've been looking at our backgrounds, what got us to this point, and I've learned a technique to control my emotions that works REALLY well.

This week I start the "Environment Changer" part of the program where I'll learn how to start meeting the needs I've not been meeting that makes OW so attractive. I'm not exactly sure how it works yet, but in looking over the pre-call homework, it looks like it shows you how to recreate the mindset you had when you were dating, when all you saw in each other was the good and fascinating. You know -- where he and OW are now. You learn how to usurp THAT relationship by creating a new obsession for WS...with you!

If it's anything like my calls with Larry, it's going to work like a charm. Larry is very positive and in every phone call I've had with him, he tells me things like how smart I am, how quick my mind works, how good I'm going to be at this, how this isn't my fault, etc. In short, he builds me up and makes me feel like I'm a competent, powerful person again - something I haven't felt since this nightmare began! I look forward to every call with him. Who wouldn't want to be around someone who makes them feel so good?

WH has decided that I'm the cause of all of his problems and OW is the solution. Nothing I've done to this point has changed his opinion.

But if I can learn how to harness this technique and replace the old program of "wife = problems, OW = solution" with "OW = problems, wife = solution" then I can break through the fog and finally give that ho her walking papers. Woo-hoo!

I've tried variations of the positive attitude before with limited success, but I believe what I'm going to learn this week is a plan that's specific to my WS, given his personality and family history. Larry has also eluded to the fact that once you master this technique, you can use it with your kids, friends, family, co-workers, etc. to put a whole new spin on life.

A panacea?

Lord I hope so! I haven't felt this good or been this hopeful in YEARS...