CW, Ilike - thanks for your opinions. About H trying to relieve his guilt by offering garden work. I emailed him that we have plans on Saturday, which we do and he emailed back saying "You really don’t want my help?" so I replied that it's easier for me if I don't see him but if he wants to come and work outside on Sunday, he can, I will be busy inside....
SCH - thank you so much...our sitches are similar, It's good to compare notes as to their behavior and also to our own progress. What you say is very insightful and I know that you are right that I need to detach more.
I still have a long way to go. My stumbling blocks along the way have been the frequent flip-flopping on H's part that's been pretty much happening every few months. It always puts be back to square one. Another difficulty is the continues interaction we have to maintain to run our business.
I was so upset yesterday with the bills that forced me to "re-live" his weekend with OW, that I was ready to confront him. Today I'm thinking who cares...let it ride.....
I'm very inconsistent with my detachment, he still gets to me. I do see slow progress...but it's painfully slow.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
