The meeting with your W will be though, but I see that you have been doing lots of "prep" work and I'm sure you'll do just fine
You are questioning if to stay or move out? I'm assuming that she wants to stay. You said that you get along as "roommates" and it probably takes lots of effort on your part to keep it smooth.
Is she being "civil" because she thinks that you'll be moving out? Will that change if you don't?
I don't know what I would do, I wasn't given a choice...he wanted to leave. Would I be able to have him in the house knowing that the affair continues? Must be very difficult for you.
Sorry maybe I missed it in your tread but how serious is this R with OM? Did she ever threaten to leave or talked about moving in with OP?
I think that the meeting with her will give you some answers...no need to rush on the moving out issue
About the anger...It's strange, I didn't think I was angry anymore until about 2 weeks ago. Then it reared up it's ugly head again and it colors the way I talk to H lately.
I wonder if it comes in stages....but as you said it's part of the healing process...to have some anger may help with detachment.
Eric, you are doing amazingly well, don't beat your self up about the past....it takes two to tango....if there were problems in your R previously I'm sure that they weren't only yours. Maybe your marriage needed a shake-up....but it certainly didn't need to happen the way she chose.
Keep up the good work
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
