Found this post on another site where WS were expressing what they thought about OW/OM during and after the A. Hmmm....
Quote:
One potential reason is that many affairs are with neighbors, co-workers, or people met while traveling - crimes of opportunity. Very few was search far and wide and a long time to find someone special - affairs often "just happen." So you usually aren't selecting from a wide pool. This is one reason very few was have successful marriages with the AP.
So if the pool of partners is small, why the attraction? They say you often end up attracted to the way they make you feel about yourself. They are a mirror, showing you something you want to see. You aren't necessarily attracted to them personally, you are attracted to the way you think they see you and the feeling it creates.
Once you see them for what they are (some poor lost soul with weaknesses and physical imperfections, just like everyone else), the mirror effect will go away.
Anyway, that is how it is explained in Not Just Friends and After The Affair.
The whole Shallow Hal thing I guess..... I wonder if she has a tail? (lol)
Last edited by WhatNow; 05/29/1005:36 AM.
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