Hey Luvs, I wonder if it might help if we could recap your sitch a bit - I'm actually getting a little confused as to where you're at. Maybe this might help other folks too get a sense of exactly what types of support you're needing. So let me try to summarize this, please correct me where I'm wrong. Hope that's workable? So...
- you've been married before; 3 years out of that; there was some abuse directed at you but you've have had counseling since - you're in a new R now, you have 3 kids, he has 1 - you are not living together currently, but you had been (?) - and you've essentially walked away from the R for the time being, striving to be friends but hoping for more eventually if you guys can work it out (?) - and what you guys are experiencing is the push/pull thing; with him being the one who withdraws
Is that an accurate summary? Anything I missed? And finally, the most important question, what types of input/feedback/advice were you wanting? Just as an example, are you looking for advice on how to handle his withdrawal?
Sometimes I find it helpful here if you ask a specific question, something you're looking for input on, or explain a specific event you'd like help learning how to manage. That way people know what type of help to offer. I hope that helps. Hang in there Luvs! Better days are coming!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
