Wow! Lots of questions, but your sitch doesn't sound too bad! OK, to be romantic. Bring flowers home. Grocery store flowers are fine. Just buy them, bring them home, present them to her and give her a kiss. It's not hard. It took me 28 years to convince my H to do it. How often do you cook a meal for her? And clean it up, because it is not so romantic if I have to clean the kitchen after my husband cooks. Have you ever walked into a Victoria's Secret or Frederick's of Hollywood store? Go in there. Either with your wife or alone. The sales girl will be very happy to help you. Tell them you want something sexy and romantic for your wife. All you need to know is her size -- small, medium, large, extra large. (You can look in any item of her clothing to know this).
As for MC. Yes, you are looking for someone who is solution oriented and pro-marriage. Have you looked into Retrouvaille? They have a great success rate and it happens much faster than counseling -- a weekend to start, then 6 follow-up sessions for 4 hours. It's fabulous! It saved my marriage and thousands of others. And yes, we tried counseling first. That did not work for us. I think a lot of the difference was that we talked all the time in counseling, and in Retrouvaille we listened. Then when we talked it was in a new way. Counseling didn't change us as people. Retrouvaille did. Here's the website, www.helpourmarriage.org.
So good luck! Don't lose steam. You can be the husband of her dreams! And you can have fun doing it!
