PG, Future...thanks for your thoughts....

You are both correct..I need to stop worrying about the future and the direction that my M clearly seems to be headed, and focus on myself. W is completely out of my control, and her mind is made up. She is going to go through with the D, and I just need to let her go. I admit that it is very, very difficult, primarily because I was never even given a chance at working on the M. All I want is a chance, but that does not appear to be an option at this point.

I realized today that one big emotion I am feeling is disappointment. Disappointment in myself, my M, and mostly disappointment in my W. She has just given up on me and our M. Her depression is a huge, huge factor, and I truly hope she is able to climb out of her hole at some point. I would like to think I will be there when she does, and hopefully she will see how great I really am. But, as you say, no one can predict the future. I cannot keep letting this tear me apart.

I am going to drop the rope. NC as much as possible. Let's see what the next few weeks bring.

I must maintain my GAL mindset. I simply must. There is no other option.

Thanks for listening.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012