Exactly--and coming to terms with one's shadow side is an important part of finally growing up. Somewhere in the resources are some articles by Newman (who runs a different MLC website) which apply Jung's theories to the MLC. I found them quite fascinating and useful.
I'm not sure how "deliberately" the MLCer hurts the LBS. I believe they really are in a space where they can't understand how other people perceive them (or even how they would "normally" have perceived situations). An extreme crisis reaction is to think, "I'll kill myself and that will make life better for everyone who loves me." Or, the opposite child-like thought, "I'll kill myself, and that will make them sorry!" Yet both thoughts are totally internally based--neither begins to capture the reality of what loved ones will feel once the suicide is completed. I think the MLCer, in his depression, is equally incapable of understanding what a "normal" reaction to his actions would be.
