I also think this is a really good post for all of us to really read and understand.
While my feelings and thoughts mean jack crap, I have always felt your H was heading to a divorce no matter what. I am sorry to have to say that.
It is important to make goals (EX: having your H be more comfortable around your, smile, laugh and so on) but at the end of the day those gestures have not been reflective of his overall actions.
So really, the GAL'ing really was all for you. And I am proud of all you have done. If you really can get your business up and running again in a solid capacity I do feel your life will dramatically change in a way that is, well, quite simply wondrous.
Your H is very like mine. He needs to be the 'good guy' or pretend he is the 'good guy' by offering you random crumbs while he is privately moving towards a divorce.
The GRAND thing is you are much better prepared to handle all of this now. And that alone should be celebrated. YOU did the work. YOU did the learning. YOU did the growing. And if that is not amazing then I don't know what is.
I know I have been hard on you and for that I am sorry if it caused you any further distress. I do want you to know though that I am deeply proud of you and filled with admiration.
