Your wife should not take this crap. She should move out on her own and support herself and grow up. When she finds out that it is not so easy out there alone she may realize her husband was not so bad. But she can't come back unless she leaves. You are arguing in circles. Nothing changes. Mr. Bond is right. She is outsmarting you if she has you believing that a business call is the same as an emotional affair call. When will you accept that you will never win the argument with her?