WHen your wife comes and brings this up hit her with this :
You know what? If it's ok with OMW, then its ok with me...
Hand her your phone and invite her to call OM's WIFE and ask if she's comfortable with it...
THAT takes the pressure OFF YOU and onto OMW...
When your wife refuses to call, and she WILL
You tell her
OMW knows as well as you and I do that it's NOT healthy for a marriage to be talking to another woman's husband in SECRET in a way that does DAMAGE to that marriage.
OMW wants you to stop meddling in her marriage, that's it.
When I call, I am keeping OMW INFORMED and REASSURED that NO ONE IS MEDDLING... are YOU gonna do that? If so, go ahead, call OMW and reassure her that you aren't calling OM... That's what I am doing.. if YOU want to take on that responsability and make those calls you go for it...
