Yes, always expose to others before confronting your wife

Revealing your exposure plans to your wife ahead of time is the equivalent of showing your opponent your whole hand at a poker table...

This iS a poker game, don't kid yourself...

Your wife is giong to be LIVID when you do this...

Let her be livid, alcoholics are livid when you lock teh liquior cabinet too...

Your wife is going to threaten divorce... you just recite your scirpt above and walk away from the fight.. don't get into it with her...

Expose to anyone who may put pressure on her to end her affair... and you stay away from her