Well the attorney I spoke with definitely was the "traditional" type who wanted a $3,500 retainer and $200/hr. Not very necessary in this case. I've been spending more time on a different D forum looking for technical answers to D procedure. This certainly would be easier with an attorney, but much more expensive. There is a Wisconsin poster in the D forum who did the entire procedure with a WAS out of state. Mine should be much easier.
Wisconsin has pretty easy DIY D procedure. We have already formed the Joint Petition and Stipulation for Temporary Order. We just need to determine our valuation of assets, what to do with the house, our agreeable split of asset/debt. She really isn't happy about the fact I paid for everything bill related (mortgage, utilities, insurance, internet, cable, everything..) and she could sock her money away in retirement and investment. Now she has to split that and she does not like it.
I guess if you want security, don't have an affair, walk away, and ask for a divorce.
As far as how I've been doing, it's tougher since we have already had more contact than if we had done everything through lawyers. We will have to meet a few more times, but I'd just like to limit our contact, so I can continue detaching. Plus, I really hate that "I just want you to be happy" crap. It sounds so disingenuous. Blech.
