I don't know that I believe my W and her therapist had a falling out per se. We had gone as a couple to both her and my therapists. It doesn't work that way. My MC told us to see an unbiased, neutral MC to counsel us. He/she would have no biases or alligiances and would be best for our M.
I do think she might be realizing to some degree that she can't raise two twin boys alone and still retain her sanity. Her therapist may have endorsed seeing a MC to see what positive steps can be made between us. Her T is still her T. WE need a MC.
I don't see why she would start down the road all over again just to confirm that she should move on. At our last session together my W said, "I am here because I want to work on this." I don't think she knows how and I think there is a lot of anger and resentment to flesh out before she can explore renewing her feelings for me. At least that's what she said.
One exchange went like this: T: Now that you've seen your H making all these changes, how do you feel about that? W: Well, I am happy for the kids because they finally have their father. I am a different story. I need to work on me before I can even think about working on us.
I spoke briefly with this new T and I got a pretty good feeling. I always ask, "Who is the client in your eyes?" If she doesn't say, "the marriage" then I move on. She identified our issues quickly and seemed to be very aware of what my W is going through right now. It's a consultation...if I don't like the vibes, I am not stuck with her.
