I have been away but lurking lately and I just want to say to mb28 that you have done EVERYTHING to try and work on your marriage. If your husband is reading then I hope that you will really step away and see WHY your wife came to this board in the first place. Her only question and desire from the very beginning was to work on her marriage with an unwilling partner and MANY if not all of us are in the same position hence the word DIVORCE BUSTING. At times this board is like an online journal that others that are going through or have been through the same thing are allowed to read and comment on. Instead of mb28 talking to another man in real life, confiding in mutual friends or family, or spewing her anger onto you and ruining an already fragile relationship, she did the best thing should could think of and got the advice of professionals via therapy and others on this board who have spent years researching marital problems.
Hugs to you mb28 and I you will always be in my prayers.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo