But.. again.. that is your choice. It is that same hard-headed approach that is holding you back "here". Nothing we could say.. will change that. You have to.
Statement...
"he claims that i get all of his attention for the rest of the year but honestly, i don't."
Your response..
"n january, he's focused on work because it's evaluations month. in february, he's recovering from january and it's all about him. oh a valentine's day care package from his mom. in march, he starts thinking about his parents because it's been three months since he has seen him. we have to start planning on a trip out to see his parents. his mom's birthday is coming up so *i* have to think about a creative gift for her. in april, it's his mom's birthday. let's plan a week trip out to see her. oh look, an easter care package from his mom. in may, we have to think about mother's day for his mom. we also have to start redecorating the house because his parents may come to visit in the summer and we can't let them think that we don't do anything with the house. in june, we have to think about father's day for his dad. oh, and his father is planning on coming out to visit for 2.5 weeks. oh joy. oh and another care package from his mom! in july, it's his father's birthday so *i* have to think about a gift to send his father. in august, he starts thinking of going to visit his parents because the last time he went to see them was april. in september, we have to start thinking about redecorating the house because his parents are going to fly in for thanksgiving in nov. in october, we're redecorating. every weekend is out looking for furniture. oh look! a halloween care package from his mom. in november, it's h's birthday and parents are here to celebrate his b-day and thanksgiving. oh joy! double joy - another care package!! we also have to start thinking about what to buy everyone for christmas. massive shopping yet again. and guess who has to do all the thinking? and planning on when to fly out to see his parents for christmas. in december, we are with his parents for half a month."
I don't know.. even with your long thought out list.. there seems to be a lot of time unaccounted for. I mean even in December you had 15 days of unaccounted for time.
Basically.. what I am saying is that you cannot "win" like this. You respond before anything happens. It will keep you stuck in the cycle. I mean.. all he did was make a list of stuff.. cause someone told him too. You already have your fists up. You are making your own list.. planning out the attack.
You really need to back away from this and get your head on straight. You cannot waffle in front of him at this point. The more you do the more you set yourself back. Even if you are sitting across the table from him at the L office. Appearance is everything right now.
Did you decide what you are doing for the long weekend?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
