First I would say the advice you get here will be very different from some of the other boards.
The main difference here is that your not deaingl with a just a lack of moral turpitude.
If your W is in MLC or acting anything like it, it is unlikely that the tactics and they are tactics, employed on the newbie board for example will help at all.
MLCers are running from control, they are running because they feel pain inside and they blame YOU.
You can do all these MAN UP tactics all day long and she will either see right through you or maybe, maybe she gets coerced into abiding and then...
...well its like a dog (nod to Lostforwords on this one) you call it, it comes, it looks at you, maybe you give it treat, and then boom off again...actually a dog is better than an MLCer.
The advice here is tougher because you gotta check some things at the door when you come here. The path is tougher here because it is about focusing on yourself and making changes in yourself.
Real changes.
You have to figure out who YOU are. You say you want your M?
When will you say you don't?
When W doesn't respond to some tactic? When W doesn't give you what you want? When W is unfaithful? When W moves out? When W files for D?
Or when you understand what YOU want and what YOU are about.
Did your vows have a BUT clause in them?
I will love you all the days of my life BUT if you _______ then I won't.
See what I mean Stillt? What kind of man do you want to be?
It makes no difference for YOUR journey whether your W is in MLC or not.
It only matters how you decide to react to it.
What you do with YOUR time while your W is lost.
It has been described as being a beacon or a light out in the distance shining a faint and ever brighter light on the path back to you.
This takes a heap of courage my friend.
So what kind of man is Stillt?
That question is for you, not me.
P.S. I am not going to refer to you as still because you can't be still. You have to take action.
I like Stillt because you're standing tall.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
