And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[beingreal]

(((PEI)))

I've been in my own world lately & didn't see this thread. My, what a busy girl you've been! lol

I'm proud of you for not only doing so well so early on, but for getting your footing back after having a difficult night. It's hard not calling or giving into every whim, but the next day I'm so grateful that I didn't.

Fwiw--I am just now learning the real meaning of the phrase "It is what it is." Nothing more, nothing less. And nothing can change it. See it. Learn from it. Let it go.

I've been giving myself a lot of one word commands lately. Like..."Stop." and "Breathe." and "Love." Anything more and I get too overwhelmed--it's like the Rosetta Stone program for MLC. One thing at a time.

and I'm just realizing that all my 'helping' and 'running interference' came across as "you can't do this" or "I'm better at this than you" ... and if I'm really honest with myself, I did probably think that by times. I was wrong. Different isn't not as good ... it's just different, and my kids are going to benefit tremendously by having a loving, involved Daddy who can show them things and teach them things from a perspective which is different than their Moms.

Ummmm.... I'm so guilty of this. I stepped in a lot towards the end when H was just angry all of the time. I wouldn't let him become abusive, but I stepped in a lot when I shouldn't have. Thanks for the new perspective.


Hang on girlie--we'll get through this.