Is this a relationship you want back? Or do you want a different kind of relationship?
i want a different kind of relationship but i want it with my h. he was my best friend. i can see that the things he's been doing is based on emotion and not intellect.
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I ask, because I see this as your chance. I see this as his chance to break free from his parents - to finally grow up. Perhaps he will. Perhaps he won't. But this is his golden opportunity. It is yours as well....
i would like to see him grow up. he claims that i'm the one who needs to grow up and be independent. and i look at him. and i see how many times he runs to his parents. i just don't know what to say.
so many people don't know how attached he's become to them since we got married. i don't know if he will ever snap out of it. i want him to know that he needs to find a way to make it work. it's not in my hands. it's in his. and he believes that the solution is to go with his parents and throw away our friendship. there is no middle ground for him. he has difficulties enforcing boundaries with his parents.
suddenly i've become enemy #1. i'm so hurt by this. i feel betrayed. and i feel like i made a mistake by giving myself away to him. i spent a long time getting to know him as a friend. and he was the only one who made me smile on a daily basis. now all i feel is the knife in my back and sting of the slap across my face.
are you suggesting i walk away from this? a big part of me is unable to let go. even if this ends in a d, i wouldn't move on.
