I've left it alone, decided no more discussion unless he initiates it and then short and to the point. I'll use my sisters line about wanting to try our agreement as it stands before we make adjustments (boundary re not giving in to every request just to prove I'm 'flexible'). Then when an appropriate amount of time has passed, if he mentions adjusting it again or alternating weekends I'll offer the compromise based on having thought about what he expressed as an alternative.
Re the B'day party: I've offered, but I'm just gonna leave it at that. If he wants to follow through then he can let me know, and if he says nothing then I'll ignore it too. The kids and I will offer to take him out for supper on the day but that's it. I might even buy the scotch, because it's a nice gift, but leave it with a bow on the counter when I leave the house.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
I would also like to point out that as small as the little question was to your mutual friend - it may at some point come back to haunt you. By your own admission, control was an issue in your M. Any question that ask others about H could be viewed as controling by your H should he find out about it.
Yep, this was a calculated risk. I honestly do not believe B will say anything, but on the off chance that I'm wrong about this (and Lord knows I've been wrong about alot lately ) then it was worth the gamble.
As always, thanks for everything you guys are sanity savers
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
) then it was worth the gamble. 
