Hey Bobbi, thats great progress, its funny how an IC really can help you with what sounds so simple, but you just need someone else to point it out to you hey.
So Dan sent you 6 nice texts and called in one day?? Wow. Well done for making him handle the coach!
You do sound like you are in a good place, which is amazing after all you've had to deal with. xxx
Yes, my IC is great. She keeps reminding me how well I am doing when I don't see it! From the stories I have told about my mom, Dan, and MIL she basically thinks I am surrounded by 'crazymakers' and is amazed I don't get pulled into their drama more as it is hard not to sometimes.
In fact while explaining the family picnic issue to her I was mentioning how my mom used to take my sisters and I (and my grandma and aunt) to visit my uncle in prison, but she lied and told us we were visiting him at his marine base. (He had been a marine, got charged w/rape, courtmartialed and put in prison!) Anyway it was an example of how my mom lies, but as I was telling it I realized just how screwed up it sounded and yet here I am, mostly healthy and intact! I never knew till after he was 'discharged' (released from prison)...I saw the buildings, the men in uniform (guards), all the guys dressed like my uncle (hello prison uniforms!), the tall fences, thought it was part of being on base...anyway said uncle comes to all these parties and I don't like my kids being around him.
As for Dan, yeah seven texts and a phone call. Started out w/him in the a.m. texting to ask if Sydney ate breakfast at preschool. I replied, and asked if they were all healthy (somehow kids have gotten neither the flu nor the bronchitis, whew!)...then he replied back about how Nathan was getting too big to want kisses from dad when he drops him off at school. That turned into a short "Sunrise, Sunset" convo about the kids growing up. [however Nathan still hugs me and sometimes kisses me at school ] Once I got to school I saw Sydney dressed in an adorable new outfit. I sent him a message telling him she looked cute and he replied back that he wasn't sure it if was too big and sent a backup outfit. Anyway later last night he called to tell me kids were at his mom and dad's, he was on his way to cattle friend Doug's bc a cow was out. I empathized and then he texted me as I was heading to bed that he got the cow contained and was headed back...
I am enjoying the peace while it lasts, he is due to pay me the settlement next month and that may not go well...
I never knew till after he was 'discharged' (released from prison)...I saw the buildings, the men in uniform (guards), all the guys dressed like my uncle (hello prison uniforms!), the tall fences, thought it was part of being on base...anyway said uncle comes to all these parties and I don't like my kids being around him.
] Once I got to school I saw Sydney dressed in an adorable new outfit. I sent him a message telling him she looked cute and he replied back that he wasn't sure it if was too big and sent a backup outfit. Anyway later last night he called to tell me kids were at his mom and dad's, he was on his way to cattle friend Doug's bc a cow was out. I empathized and then he texted me as I was heading to bed that he got the cow contained and was headed back...
