My wife told me on March 20th that she no longer loved me and did not feel the same about me anymore. She said she needs someone to take care of her, and feels like she has been taking care of me. A few weeks before she asked me what my priorities were. Now I had no idea what was coming, so I said what first came to mind, the kids. At the time I did not even think of our priorities as being different. I thought we were a team. Now if I tell her things like that I think she just puts it off to my wanting to keep our M in tact.
The last time we had a vacation together was 2002. Our last date alone was over a year ago. I have been working full time + some OT, going to school full time for the last four years, coaching my boys basketball team, being part of the athletic board, picking kids up from school, doing household chores, (wife works retail), thinking I was a pretty good all around guy, and maintaining a 3.66 GPA.
Pointing this out to her does nothing. She says she has been thinking about this for six months. She would often come home, go to her/our room and get on her blackberry while watching TV. I thought she had just turned 40 and needed some space. If I said something it was usually not in the best way, "Hey nice to see you for ten seconds," or something to that affect is what I would usually choose rather than tell her how it hurt me and the kids to have her so removed. She says she has told no one, talked about it to no one, does not want to see a therapist, a preacher, or any type of counselor. She wanted no one to affect her decision, and she now wants to, "turn to the next chapter in her life".
The six months she talks about coincides with her returning to work. She works retail and is more than burned out by it now. She has gone to Vegas, on weekend trips to friend's houses without the kids, to sorority alumni functions, and even on a girl cruise, but evidently none of this was good enough to get her out of her funk.
Does it sound like I am looking at a MLC here? I have been on the 180 borad and reading DBing, while trying to get my head on straight for the last two months. I have really tried to be business like with her lately, and kept my hands to myself in the bedroom. I was putting my arm around her while we slept previously and that led to situations that made her feel guilty/bad "we should not have done that" was the end statement.
The coolness seems to be driving her further away, however and that really scares me. I love this woman and although I have been trying to GAL, I cannot picture my future without her.
OK I am babbling, but this is such a nice outlet for me that I thank you all for your patience.
