"All rise"

[mulesqb]

Hey Frank --Actually I think that response from D7 and S9 is a pretty common one..A lot of what they are experiencing right now inside is being withheld..everybody says that kids are resilient and they'll be fine..that's true, but it takes time and they need to get their emotions and fears out..as good as they may look, their world is being rocked right now and they are probably very scared, especially S9 as he understands bits and pieces. Honestly, it would help if your XW could reassure them that this is all between mommy and daddy. As long as she's buying coffee, maybe she could do her kids a solid and make them understand that they have a great father that loves them very much and will always be there for them and would take them in his home in a second if NY state would have given him a shot..

You know how my sitch went down and how my ex checked out on the kids..my kids all had the exact same reaction about her..I kept telling them how much their mom loves them..believe me, it wasn't easy as she sees them maybe 4 hours a week and has never asked for even a minute more..every kid deserves two parents..deserves to know that they are loved by both. No matter how trivial matters become between divorcing parents, that should never trickle down to the kids..it will only hurt them..I hope your XW can see that, she is in position to make a huge difference. It was sometimes very difficult for me to say those words to the kids, but I am so glad that I did. It helped THEM, and that's what's important.

Here's hoping you have a great 3 day weekend!

Strength and Honor..it never gets old..

Mules