EMS: Thank you for your post. Again I find my best efforts get turned into the wrong direction. I know I do this to myself. I THINK I am detaching, and I still make it all about him.
I like the person I see in the mirror. I know it shows grace and humility to state "I am changing", but basically I have worked very hard and done a pretty darn good job becoming who I am.
I am not afraid to have my own opinion, my own standards and I am proud of my career, children and talents.
My biggest "sin" is trying to do too much and getting frustraited/angry with myself and others when things don't happen how i want them to. Yeah, I like to control things.
My life got kicked in the a$$ when my brother and mother died and friend was murdered. It was grief overload. I believe my H's MLC was a "perfect storm" that collided and about destroyed me. Hell yeah I am mad! Hell yeah I am sad.
....so now I just heard you all say; "..so what are you going to do about it?"
