My musings might not have come out right ... I guess I was pondering the fact that I may have attached more to what was coming from her than was valid, that I made it bigger in my own head then it should have been, and that I had been the one to give it space. And you're right ... what does it matter ... it is what it is. I now know where the gaping holes in our marriage were/are - validation, acceptance and control are the real issues (I am getting an eyefull in Mars/Venus!). The specifics of the story are irrelevant.
Back to working on and thinking about me ... PMA retrieval well under way ... thanks for the 2x4
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
