You have asked a lot of questions that you WANT the answers for.
That is good.
Everything that you NEED the answers for , is already inside of you.
That is better.
One point I want you to understand here, there are two sides to a marriage..
The legal side, and the emotional side.
Our MLC spouses have already checked out of the emotional side , and feel no particular connection to the legal side , most of the time.
I'm gonna use an analogy for you, cause that's what I do...
In the fall of the year, the leaves , on the trees, turn these glorious colors, then they begin to wither, and dry up. They eventually die and fall to the ground.
Will they ever be on a tree again ? Full of vibrant color and life?
No ,they will not be.
Will there be new growth , stemming from those same roots?
Most of the time there is.
However, IF you deny that tree the fertilizer, water, and the sunlight to promote those things.......it will die.
For everything RLay, there is a reason, a season...a time to be.
Does the pile of leaves at the base of your tree, mean the tree is dead ?
No it doesn't.....It means that the tree needs time to lie dormant. To heal, to grow....
To just be for a while.....
Most times, the old leaves serve as fertilizer for the new leaves growth...
But they have to die first...
Your next relationship will be a new one, regardless of who it is with ( even if it is with your current spouse)
And it deserves that time, from you, to grow, and heal properly.
Standing allows us that time to really take a hard look inside of ourselves, and allows that.
Standing is OUR time....for us.
So...
In the spring....
Do you want to be at the base of your tree with a water can?
Or an axe.....
This really is your choice, and your time to heal, and grow as well...
There is no guarantee that your marriage will be restored.
And if there was, there would be no real reason for challenges in our lives.
Nothing worth having is ever easy.
If YOU can use this time for you to become who you want to be,
NOTHING will be failed, and everything gained.
And I will guarantee that RLay will be a success...
