Nothing fits

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Mish..
I have been reading and sorry to reiterate OT etc, but I have to say.. I dont entirely agree that you were right to lay your feelings out and he can chose what to do with it...because you werent telling him how you felt, you were accusing him of using you. You said he was making you feel like you were just a booty call. If you look at that, its kind of insulting, knee-jerky and undermines the feelings he genuinely was developing for you (as he said). It wasnt a reflection of what was going on between you, or his intentions, it was a reflection of how you view yourself. Now after what he did, you'd be entitled to throw hurtful words at him!.. but thats not good DBing right and you presumably want to hang onto this new, more caring, loving Gabe?

But hey, no 2x4 necessary as you did give him space and apologised to each other after, so good progress hey!

You do have a tendency to the negative which makes me confused. I wasnt picking up AT ALL from your earlier posts that he saw you as just a booty call. You even said yourself he had been very caring and helping around the house and 'snuggling' in bed. So I felt you should have reframed that negative thought in your mind, instead of blurting it out.

I also am not getting AT ALL that reconciliation is "a long way off" as you just said.. ?? You are living together and ML! You are in reconciling mode right now! Its just fragile is all.

C'mon Mish, you got your H back, thats AMAZING, A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! Dont you think? Ok hard work ahead, but can we have a glass half full around here please !?

I'm soooo hapy for you, I could do a little jig like a medieval jester
xxx