So, I have 100% confirmed that the craigslists ad was WH. I emailed the ad from the fake email and I asked him what he was looking for, etc. and asked him to send a picture.
He emailed back with his picture (stupidly) and said he was looking for "friends with benefits" and that he needed to be discreet and he could "possible host but it could be tricky". He asked for the fake person to give their phone number. I'm going to be watching his cell phone records now to see what calls he is making.
I have no reason to email him back but it worries me that he may try to bring a woman over while I'm at work on Thursdays when he says "I could host but it would be tricky". I'm alsmost thinking about getting a hidden camera and putting it near our front entrance so I can see who comes into the house when I'm not there.
I'm still going to be DBing and working on the steps and most importantly, myself. However, I want to get this evidence now because if a divorce does end up going down I'm giong to use this. I want to keep this house that I worked so hard for. I could technically file right now because I have enough evidence that he is cheating or if he hasn't is going to be. I also have all the emails from his last fake email address with all the women he contacted over 2-3 years. I changed the password a long time ago so I have all that too and the fact he also had an affair. Although legally it is considered that I "forgave" him for the affair and past indiscretions because he lived in our home and we had sex since those things occured.
I did a lot of research last night on addiction and sexual addiction and I am now convinced that he has a problem. He has all the signs: •Thinking of sex to the detriment of other activities or continually engaging in excessive sexual practices despite a desire to stop. (I know he is highly ashamed and has tried to stop) •Spending considerable time in activities related to sex, such as cruising for partners or spending hours online visiting pornographic Web sites. •Continually engaging in the sexual behavior despite negative consequences, such as broken relationships or potential health risks.
It almost makes me feel better now because I know it's not about me. The sad thing is is that I don't think he realizes he has a problem. It also makes me question what the hell he was actually doing in couseling for the past four month - does his therapist even know about this?
