Well the txt I was waiting for arrived.My sis saw H and OW at the window of a local pub.She said he looked stone faced and she looked solemn.A couple of hours later the txt arrived asking if I had had any more thoughts since he lasy ctcd me? so she obviously giving him a hard time.Whats she seeing thats making her press for D.(3months since last txt).Maybe I should just divorce him, maybe he is happy. Well if its about crossing boundaries and you would be warning her,I would let her fill her boots and get into bother...
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
Lees, you don't want to look bad in any way. You also want to protect FIL health.
If you WOULDN'T bring this to supervisors with another pt/doctor situation, perhaps it is best to keep any evidence/proof you have, and if you can find it happening again, then bring it to the uppers.
That way it doesn't look so much like you are seeing vengeance, and this particular Dr. needs some reminding about the basics of pt. care and confidentiality.
Back still much the same thanks. Feeling a bit stressed at the moment which always makes it worse
Lees, If there is someone higher up you can ask what you should do about it, then I would do that. Just make sure that whatever you do your back is covered. If you think FIL is not getting the correct advice due to OW actions then it's hard to leave it alone.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Had a fab time in the last couple of days. Course I was being assessed as instructor on went well, I drank a lot of prosecco at the faculty dinner, and am covered in bruises from paintballing yesterday.
Spent the evening with the sMIL yesterday and asked her advice about the interference of the OW. She's a retired GP, so is well versed on this type of thing. Apparently the FIL's GP is head of the regional ethics committee or something like that and she reckons I won't have to do anything as he's going to find it incredibly suspicious that the OW has referred someone privately for a cardiology appt when she's a junior gastroenterologist, referred him with inaccurate information, not informed his own consultant or GP. Referrals to private care can come only from a patient's GP or hospital consultant. Nothing untoward will happen to the FIL medically, but he'll be paying for private care completely unneccesarily and the OW is sticking her oar in where it's not really needed. The sMIL told him these things apparently!
The OW passed on a load of research articles for FIL to read apparently - ridiculous as he barely bothers to read a newspaper never mind a highly complex medical journal lol! She's also written the referral letter with her own gastro consultant's name on it, and written it as though she's actually seen and examined the FIL, when apparently they haven't met. sMIL is going to try and find out if OW has actually sent the referral letter, and if she has I'll be sending copies of it anonymously to her own consultant, the FIL GP and to the FIL cardiologist. Then she'll be in some bother!
She's advised me to keep the email stating categorically that OW has been accessing medical records of people that she hasn't been directly involved in treating close to my chest. That part could actually give her a criminal record I believe........
Have been having a real hoot with the almost old flame. Haven't laughed so much in a long time. She's still flirting outrageously, and I'm flirting back. All going swimmingly!
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
Didn't quite understand your post Jac - do you mean why is your H pressing for divorce? Or why is your friend recommending it?
I'm not sure her asking you about how you feel about him now is either a positive or negative. It's mindreading to try and determine from that whether he's either pressing on for D or is testing the water with you.
But then if D is the right option for YOU, that's what should happen. If it's only what he wants, I would just sit back and wait.
I'm off to Scotland tomorrow hurrah! sMIL is absolutely fuming with OW, and the OW has not in fact ingratiated herself into the in-laws as much as I thought hurrah! The OW may be shortly to have a big fall at work! Hurrah!
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
Lees H txT 7 MAR sayin he would sign everything over in return for a divorce.Then nothing until yesterday.He txt me asking if I had any more thots since he last ctcd me? What I didnt know was my sis had saw them at lunch around 1.They didnt see her.She said my H looked really stoney faced and she looked solemn.When the txt arrived my sis said thats it she had an ultimatium face on. She said they did not look like a couple who were happy at all. Early eveing my borther saw h again running home from work.He usually has her car.He said he looked terrible, very pale and very white headed.When H had left he had grey hair with some dark hair, now he is totally white.He is also very very sallow and always looks as if he has a tan.Bro said he looked very pale and as if he had aged considerably.
Look like OW is starting to show her true colours. Whats she seeing that shes pushin him for D.They have only been together for 10 months..I am sure H doesnt really want D.Bond has suggested I do not respond and detach so thats what I am going to do. Sounds like you came off worst at paint balling..Scotland has had its usual wet/hail weather.Make sure you pack everything just in case.....
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
She's pushing him for D because she's insecure - same reason as all these cheaters are. They know how easy it is to walk away and to cheat. The longer he doesn't divorce you the more insecure she'll get.
I agree with Bond. Leave him to it. If he wants to divorce you let him do it, unless you have a stronger desire to divorce him. Sounds like he isn't really enjoying life at the moment.
I did OK at paintballing - there were plenty of people with worse bruises!
We have glorious sunshine. But I'll make sure to not pack only shorts and vest tops!
Looking forwards to meeting you Jac, and having a good old chinwag on Monday.
Saffie - hope your back is much better soon. Thanks for popping in.
Aver - only a week to go and I promise some tales of men in skirts!
The almost old flame is getting even more adventurous with the texts. Am really going to have to sort out having a beer with her as soon as I get back from Scotland.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
Paintballing was really good fun, I have the bruises and stiffness in all my limbs to prove it! Hard work carrying 3ft wooden jigsaw piece as well as heavy gun and full ammo pack under a rain of fire for 200 yds. Was worth it to get to do the rambo dive into the bunker at the end though. You must go and do it. Even the really girly girlies enjoyed it.
Am off to Scotland in about an hour when Chris arrives. Not sure how my legs will cope with being incarcerated in car for 6 hrs, will need to be extricated at the other end! And there will be just enough time to get beers in befor Eurovision finals start. Perfect!
Have arranged to go and see Spamalot with the almost old flame second weekend of June. The flirting is getting even more outrageous, and I'm having a lot of fun.
And maybe the OW stupidity at work will be starting to show by the time I return.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
