Hi Fixer Did I just read that your W gave you a small kiss on the lips? Fixer, I can remember when that was one of your desires, for your W to hug and kiss you. That is a positive.
Try not to threaten to leave. Your W doesn`t believe you. You have been telling her this for a long time, and yet, nothing changes.
I agree with Jack, you really need to shake things up. Actions speak louder than words.