It is recent, and a long time ago.. it went on for a very long time on and off... to me it feels like a long time ago because it started in 2006... didn't end until 2009... though it ended several times between those dates
Most of the advice I am offering is hindsight advice... Oftentimes when you go through something like this you are terrified and have no idea what to do, or don't have confidence in the advice... AFTERWARDS 20/20 kicks in and many people here say the same thing... If I had known this THEN things would have been much different.
Some of the advice I offer I did myself with clear positive impact... Some of the advice I offer here I never had a chance to do, but I am sure it would have helped if I had the chance to do it. Once you have been through it and are on the other side you can see much more clearly what works, why, what doens't, and why...
Detachment is a biggie... it too me a very long time to figure that one out... It is a lifesaver once you learn how to pull it off...
