This is what I have been trying to get you to understand...You will as well, once you make the decision to take back control of your life.
Once I finally woke up and decided that my H could no longer control me nor my decisions, just like I wasn't able to control his, then and only then was I able to start healing.
You have one life, when you start to truly see that and take back the control you gave her, I think your healing will finally begin...
You will be able to look forward into your future, your whole future, not just the future you may have planned with her.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I understand your feelings as well because it fires me up quicker then anything when my S is being the subject of the madhatters torment...
With that said, little man is better off for now...Maybe someday H will pull his head out of the OW butt, maybe not...
The saddest thing is that H lost the respect of both boys and he will never have it like that again...
He chose to be a douche about the whole situation even when I relented and gave him the D papers...
All I wanted was what was best for my kids...He wouldn't play nice so now I have a nice shark for a lawyer , who happened to confirm something someone else told me last night...
In my state, the money he has been using to fund his fantasy life - All of it, rent, dinners, dates etc... Well it is frowned upon here so I am able to demand 1/2 back...
Wanna play with the big dogs? Bring it on you little b***h...
He is all bark and no bite and I have a hell of a lot of supporters kicking my butt all the way to the courthouse...
And please I beg of him, please be stupid enough to sign papers on a house while we are still married because guess what, you will be forced to sell it and give me half of that as well.
I tried to be fair and the nicer I played the more evil he became...
Doormat Serenity is no longer living here...
Meet the new and improved me
The one who will fight fire with fire just for the sake of my boys.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
And please I beg of him, please be stupid enough to sign papers on a house while we are still married because guess what, you will be forced to sell it and give me half of that as well.
:jawdrop:
Ouch...that is so going to hurt! I'd love to be a fly on the wall when he gets that dose of reality.
Keep being strong, your boys need you more now than ever.
(((hugs)))
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
I understand your feelings as well because it fires me up quicker then anything when my S is being the subject of the madhatters torment...
With that said, little man is better off for now...Maybe someday H will pull his head out of the OW butt, maybe not...
The saddest thing is that H lost the respect of both boys and he will never have it like that again...
He chose to be a douche about the whole situation even when I relented and gave him the D papers...
All I wanted was what was best for my kids...He wouldn't play nice so now I have a nice shark for a lawyer , who happened to confirm something someone else told me last night...
In my state, the money he has been using to fund his fantasy life - All of it, rent, dinners, dates etc... Well it is frowned upon here so I am able to demand 1/2 back...
Wanna play with the big dogs? Bring it on you little b***h...
He is all bark and no bite and I have a hell of a lot of supporters kicking my butt all the way to the courthouse...
And please I beg of him, please be stupid enough to sign papers on a house while we are still married because guess what, you will be forced to sell it and give me half of that as well.
I tried to be fair and the nicer I played the more evil he became...
Doormat Serenity is no longer living here...
Meet the new and improved me
The one who will fight fire with fire just for the sake of my boys.
(((Hugs)))
Serenity cursing? Serenity being ruthless? I feel sorry for H.
p.s.
I'M NOT KIDDING ABOUT us finding you a date.
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
He chose to be a douche about the whole situation even when I relented and gave him the D papers...He wouldn't play nice so now I have a nice shark for a lawyer... Wanna play with the big dogs? Bring it on you little b***h...
I tried to be fair and the nicer I played the more evil he became...Doormat Serenity is no longer living here...
Meet the new and improved me
The one who will fight fire with fire just for the sake of my boys. (((Hugs)))
Go, girl! Keep kicking "detached-but-Mama-Bear" butt! And with all you've grown, all you've become, and all that you are doing, my admiration just continues to grow - as does my awe.
And in the midst of all this, you continue to be Drive-By-Serenity, popping in to this thread and that thread spreading wisdom and caring. AND to give me comfort and insight through your absolutely amazing blog.
Prayers and thanks to you,
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
