The really cool thing about Imago is that it points out that 99% of your feelings are yours and based on your own psychology and only 1% is the trigger from your partner.
It is beautiful in that it illustrates how the person you've chosen likely holds the key to helping you heal in that they push many of your childhood buttons and you've chosen them for that reason, therefore, if you can heal with them, you can heal those childhood wounds.
That's my best summary on it.
I found, even after an amazing 8 hour session with an Imago therapist, my H was 1) stuck on another woman 2) completely committed to his belief that we wrong for each other. Everything was laid out for him and made perfect sense and the willingness just was not there to do the work.
But, it is fantastic stuff and if he reads the book, he will have to absorb some of it and really understand that his sh*t is his and has little to do with you. What he does with that information is up to him of course.
