I really appreciate your interest prairiegirl, because getting started in a new place is the hardest part, usually. Thank you for helping me get the ball rolling.
Well, the implication of not asking for it was that we couldn't be in the relationship we each need, if he can't help withdrawing or if I can't accept his withdrawal. I was asking for a friendship at that point. I have kept the door open, verbally, for us to be a couple, and work through the issues as either a couple or as friends.
I was getting closer to understanding on the issue of his withdrawal, and then we had two bouts, back-to-back and the second one caught me off guard.
As for my marriage, yes, I've sought counseling a few times, and am still, I hope, in counseling. Things got really hectic here, but I hope to go back to my counselor soon. I've also seen a psychiatric doc, just to rule out some things in my family history and deal with the depression I was in, from a medical perspective.
I separated from my ex 3 years ago. I met my current SO 10 months ago, so it was approximately at the 2.5 years after the separation began that I met this guy.
Please do not let me lose sight of this book. I have quite a few on relationships, but I'm not going to get all snobbish about it. ;p I just want you to know that it could take a while for me to get to it, so I hope you will allow for that. I have such a FULL life, which is part of the reason I'm so cryptic. I'm not trying to be, just so overwhelmed, sometimes.
