He left and doesn't even want to try...(long)

[Hopeful728]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It seems very similar to what my husband has been telling me. I completely understand what you are saying about not believing he never loved you, or hasn't for a long time. It's defintely not fun to hear, even when you don't believe it! It makes it even harder when he seems even more adamant that what he is saying is true! I've told my husband that I find it hard to believe because I have 5 years of cards, e-mails, love notes, pictures, memories, etc. telling me the exact opposite. Don't you wish you could just shake him and snap him out of it?!
I think it's very easy for friends/family to sit back and tell you just to get a divorce. No one really seems to understand why you are fighting so hard to save your marriage. I'll tell you, I've been fighting like crazy for the 9 weeks we've been separated (and even before we were officially separated) and there are days I wonder if I am crazy...but I'm just not ready to give up on us yet. My husband asked me 2 weeks ago for a divorce (in an e-mail!) and yet I'm still fighting. I told him I refuse to sign any papers until he tries a marriage workshop with me. I have to know that I tried everything I could to try to save our marriage. (We are going to a workshop called New Beginnings at the end of June, so we have another 4 weeks of "limbo" waiting to see if it is going to help us.) What would I even tell people if we got divorced? "My husband and I had a great relationship...we got along well, hardly ever fought, had a good time together, a good sex life, but well, he decided he wanted someone to snowboard with once in awhile!"
Anyway, I definitely feel your frustration, hopelessness and pain. Hang in there and keep fighting!