I dont know that I am being gas lighted here, but I just have a lot of care for WAW. I think this all stems from her viewing me as having the upper hand and that I have the ammunition for full custody of DD1.

Your honestly right, staying away is for the best at this point and I have decided not to email or send a letter. I am just saddened by her being away, and i cannot stop thinking about her every second of the day.

My IC thinks that I am using her to motivate myself, but I explained the changes I am making are honestly parallel to what I need to do to move on without her. IC advises that I focus on kids and me but I guess I keep looking for that magic advice that will make the light bulb come on.

I dont know if the bosses son and her are an Item, her Mom and Friend both say no, but I guess I shouldnt care. I mean its obserd that she would bring some one to our hearing like that, so I dont know.

I think that once the weight is off, finances are in order, and custody is arranged, Ill explore my options. I am not bad looking and have a good career and alot going for me. I guess I will have to show her.

My IC said well once you get your goals accomplished, establish custody with my daughter and show how I have it all together that will not only make me more attractive to women, but her as well.

IC advised changes/kids 1st, as primary goals and WAW as a secondary goal when everything comes together.


M 36
W 29
Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months
Daughter 15 months
Bomb 4/22/10
Separated since 4/25/10
OM 6/10/10
Hopeful, but moving on