And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[WhatNow]

Hi PEI,

I have been following along with your thread and I think you are doing really well. Far ahead of me at that time period but.....

I think you may be making yourself too available to your husband(looking fine @ 12:01 am)

I think he getting his cake and eating it too. He needs to miss you and I don't think he's getting that opportunity. I may be wrong but, if you do separate I think you will get the kids every other weekend. It is tough but it might be good for him to see what life would be like only seeing the kids every other weekend.
It might give him a new perspective. I am by no means an expert and you know your husband better then anyone but I just thought I would give you some food for thought. Maybe Jack can comment.

Jack....speaking of food. I do watch Alton Brown. I like his show because it's not just a cooking show. He brings humor and a lot of info to it.

Beaches.......You can't beat Ocean City, Maryland. Crowded but you can't beat the atmosphere. Of course I am a little biased.

Matt

I too have been quietly following along with admiration.
I have to agree with Matt...^


Much of this sounds like pursuing:

I then told him that the party I was going to have for him (pre OW discovery and separation I was planning a party) was still an option, and if he was open to it, we could call his friends - old and new - and have a BBQ and a few drinks here on that weekend. I said that we could even do it Friday night instead of Saturday night so An and the boyfriend could come (she has her kids on Sat nights). He said he'd think about it. All in all, it could have gotten really ugly, we turned it around, even joked a bit, before he left and things were ok.

From my experience, MLCer's and even plain ol'WS's do not like plans of any sort. It might be better if you state what your plans are and invite him along. If you ask far in advance, be prepared to get a 'we'll see' or 'maybe'.