I hope that you didn't get the impression that MLC was a quick process. He likely [b]isn't[/i] going to be dealing with his [censored] anytime soon. From a logical point of view you'd think this was a no brainer...however if this is an MLC logical isn't anywhere nearby.
You try to apply logic to their situation and you cannot, that is why you work on you.
Real Life friends and family aren't going to understand him, and they certainly aren't going to understand you standing. Most of them think that you shouldn't hurt so they will tell you to move on or get a divorce...most of them would be doing exactly what you did...type in "save my marriage" or something and find themself here as well.
IF you called him what options would you present?
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I had kinda planned on buying him a bottle of his favourite Scotch and delivering it (looking fine!) at 12:01 am on Saturday (ie midnight Friday night) to be the first person to wish him Happy Birthday.
Sudden drop in surprises are a terrible idea with an MLCer. Bad idea, when there is an OM/OW involved. EA or otherwise.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
