DO I bring this up even if the discussion has ended. DO I just walk up to her and tell her I need to talk to her about this?
During our conversation earlier I said things along those lines. I told her "I know more about what is going on than you think, and to me it is not just a friend, it was more than that" she said "think what you want, I know what it was"
I also said "These poems, lyrics, quotes I know they are intended for him" she said "Do you ever think they were intended for you? just because something does not exactly match the situation does not mean it does not apply" I said "to be honest NO, I don't think for one minute they had to do with us."
Nope
When SHE tries to criticize YOU for calling OMW or anything related...
Note :
What you told her before is an ACCUSATION. The way you write it, you sound like you are accusing her of something underhanded. Yes, what she did WAS underhanded, but she KNOWS that... you do NOT need to SHOVE it in her face.
You just need to GENTLY say "I know and you know that it was a lot more than you want everyone to think...I dont care.. I am doing the work to get it OUT of our home and behind is.. It's not healthy for you, me, or OMW to point fingers or gossip. I am repairing the damage and then I intend to put all of this behind us and hopefully OMW will be doing the same."
What I wrote above is NOT accusing her or gloating in any way that you know her secrets etc... its a gentle explanation of what is in your head and a gentle invitation to work WITH you to get PAST it all...
I assume you shouted what you typed too.. Just stay calm even when she shouts and waves her arms.. think Mr Spock here...
