Turns out that my son did not get a lift from the OM. He only saw him driving past them on the road.
Not his fault - he's only 9. I didn't ask him to tell me if he ever saw the OM, I think he picked up on something between me and the WAW.
The good to come from it was that it pushed me into setting another boundary.
I knew it would really annoy her, the setting of this boundary, but it had to be done.
The wise words of puppy were the guidance I needed. He told someone else to always do what is right. It doesn't matter if you annoy the other person.
Tonight when I came home I expected a frosty welcome. But no.... She was light and cordial, and had gone out of her way with the boys.
She gave me a hug and a peck on the cheek as she left. This is only done to keep me sweet - it has no meaning. She even texted me to tell me she had walked home safely and wished me good night.
Everyone who has told me to set boundaries in the past was correct. While you are hurting and in pain and the feelings are raw, you don't want to make things worse.
So you keep taking the hits on the chin that your ex partner gives you, whilst hoping that they will see the light and return to you and ask you to forgive all their sins.
You have to set boundaries.
You have to enforce them.
Expect the reaction you will receive.
You have to remove all doubt from the ex partners mind that you will enforce the boundary and go through with your actions.
This will help clear your mind and allow you to mentally square your shoulders.
Your ex must respect you in all things.
Everyone, listen to the wise vets on here....
Regards, Gyn
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
