I told her I spoke to my atty and it's all set. I'll let this slide for now. I know I won't back down on it. If she wants to keep the option open for a while longer, that's fine.

Joined W and kids for a hike and ice cream last night. She had the kids and invited me. We had a fun time. I see I'm going to have to decide what things I take a stand on. When I met up with them, I noticed my son and older daughter we both wearing caps from OM's country. Was this a test? Just her ignorance over what that means to me? I don't know right now.

After we had ice cream and I was driving them back, my W had her cell phone out and was texting. I still have some residual negative association with that since a couple years ago she was texting OM right in front of us all, although I didn't know it at the time. I tried to ignore it, but I was slightly annoyed. I heard a couple texts come in on my cell phone while we were driving, and it occurred to me to pull it out to look at it, as if to say "How do you like it?", but I thought I'd take the high road and ignore my phone while we were together.

When we got to her car and they all unloaded and drove away I checked my phone and guess what I saw. Texts from her. It was me she was texting while she was sitting next to me. She first sent me a text suggesting that we start going to lunch together every Monday, as an effort to get some one-on-one time together. She was texting right next to me so as to covertly communicate without the kids hearing. We are being VERY careful to not let the kids see what's going on between us. She was hoping I'd look at my phone in the car, and give her a positive reaction, but when I didn't, she texted again and again, teasing me about my refusal to look at my phone while I was with her. I have to admit, she took my memory of her previous behavior, and turned it completely around. I was touched when I saw the texts were from her.

I texted her back, called her a sneak, and said the reason I wasn't looking at my phone was because I'm a gentleman! I said I liked the idea of having lunch together weekly, and suggested we take turns picking a place to go.

Interestingly, on our drive back she randomly brought up the neighborhoods she's looked at as possible places to move to. I said I've always liked those neighborhoods (and I have). More of the secret interview stuff.