I think you need to think about your marriage, not in terms of why you want it, but why he would want it. What does he get out of it? And then start thinking of ways to make the marriage more valuable to him. Right now, he doesn't want it at all. Why? What about the marriage is unpleasant for him? What isn't working? What can you do to make things better, not just for yourself, but for your husband?
What I learned in reconciling is that marriage is about thinking about the other person. Being considerate of that person, showing concern for their wants and likes. I was guilty of thinking only of myself, and doing everything the way I wanted it. As a result, my husband didn't feel important in the home or family, and he saw no reason to not wander. He was looking for a place to feel at home. I had to learn to make room for his wants, his style, his values. Think about ways to improve yourself. Even if your husband never returns, you will benefit from improving yourself.
There is alot of value in this post, re-read it several times, this is all reality, observing reality, using reality because reality works, fighting reality doesn't work.
