MLC - standing by my man

[AJM]

Why would you add warmth if you don't feel it? This is about you, Mila. Setting boundaries. Enforcing boundaries. Taking care of you.
If you fake anything, he'll feel it. He'll think you're lying or being manipulative. He may anyway, but it would be unfounded. Leave it that way. Be yourself and be honest with your feelings. No need to put on airs....but you should refrain from letting things get angry and crazy. Like when you deal with a teen, right?

Something from HB's post:

Selfishness is one of the first things I remember about the insensitivity of the MLC'er...like children they are thinking of no one or anything but themselves...therefore, they do NOT care about who they hurt, just as long as THEY don't get hurt.
It is also called "entitlement"..they think they are entitled to all they can get, regardless of who gets in the way, they will leave much destruction in their wake.

Yep. Yep. and Yep. That's exactly the same as I've seen in my own situation and in those on this board. It's why we see so many similarities and think about it as a script. It's almost funny, if not for the pain. Beautiful in some ways too. But seeing that comes later

Now, remember, they are looking for OUTSIDE sources to blame for their unhappiness, also looking for OUTSIDE sources to ease that pain...and until they realize it's not working and look within, they continue to be destructive; using many running behaviors to try and get away from that pain.

I had to laugh at this one. It's true, but what made it funny to me is that mine literally was running! Marathons, half-marathons etc. Every time I thought she was done she would talk about stopping the running. The MC mentioned that running was both literal and figurative. I point this out mostly because it bears repeating. And it tickled me.

AJ